Is Pornography An Addiction?
Throughout my career I have heard various statements. “Pornography is NOT an addiction”. Or “Pornography IS an addiction.” Really, I don’t think there is a correct answer. It all depends on what you consider an addiction as. To me, I ask my clients. “Can you stop anytime you want?” Most of them state that they have tried multiple times with no success. An addiction to me is something that I want to remove in my life but I keep doing it. I think if we get too caught up on if something is an addiction or not we miss the whole point of what we’re trying to accomplish. Who cares if we use that word or not; instead lets focus on how we’re going to remove it from your life. Finding a good therapist for pornography addiction is hard.
Why It Might Be Pornography Addiction And What It Does To Your Brain.
Pornography promises to relax and relief stress in your life but it actually has been linked to poor mental health outcomes. This is especially linked to when the person is concealing or keeping a secret about it. Not only does it hurt relationships but it makings the person feel lonely and more vulnerable to emotional or psychological problems. Pornography users have shown to have problems with anxiety, body-image, poor self-image, relationship problems, insecurity, and depression.
Hours of pornography use has shown a link to the individual developing grey matter in their brain. This grey matter is associated with decision making and intelligence. Pornography use has also shown that the individual is less happy with their partner’s looks and sexual performance. Additionally, there are 33 studies that found that that pornography can increase behavioral aggression and violent fantasies.
I do not share this information for you to believe you are a bad person and are doomed to have this all happen. Instead to educate on what is happening in our brains to see if we change it.
Therapist for Pornography Addiction In Bountiful
I work with many individuals with a pornography addiction. I’ve tried many approaches throughout the years. Some showing more success than others. What I have learned is that if I take the complete religious route that we seem to be missing something. You cannot just count on a spiritual presence to get you through. Instead, I look at the science and mesh this with spirituality.
We need to start off doing awareness training. What this means is to understand what you’re thinking, what triggers you are having, what your body is feeling and why. This creates the road map or manual that can help a therapist that is working with pornography addiction create new patterns in the individuals’ life and thus create a more happy and healthy existence.
A major point I want my clients to understand is that if you look at pornography you are not a bad person. What happens to someone who thinks they are bad or have sinned? They tend to get so hard on themselves and began to have self-doubts. This causes them to get back into the cycle of addiction. We need to change the relationship between pornography use and what it means to the person. Only then can we start changing brain patterns.
My goal with anyone I work with is to help them create a better understanding of why they view pornography and create healthy thinking patterns to help them stop. Creating mental changes as well as physical. Using what we know about the body as well as using spirituality. If someone I work with is willing to do the work they tend to get better.
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I have been practicing for the past 10 years. I'd like to talk about what is on my mind as a therapist. In turn, I hope to help my readers and clients.